By Eryka T. Johnson
How often do you ask for help? You know with some of the challenges you face. You spend so much time managing everything from your team, your home, the finances, and the list goes on. But, when do you raise your hand and sincerely ask for someone to come along side you to assist? Well, in today’s article, we will discuss whether or not help is a bad word for any woman leader.
Society has sold the idea once again…if you can’t handle every facet of your life, then you are weak. Give me a break! Women GET IT. They are typically hard working, multi-taskers who see the BIG picture which often leads to ensuring everyone makes it in life. This alone increases her daily workload because she’s not only concerned with succeeding personally but she assists others to do the same.
Another lie society has sold…if you ask for help, you are incompetent. You don’t have what it takes. You are failing and should probably step down as a mother, wife, leader, and mentor.
I can certainly relate. When I can’t do it all, I attack myself and my thoughts go wild. Well, this use to be the case about 5 years ago. I too bought into…you must lead in every area of your life and don’t share your struggles with others because they will pounce on you like prey.
Here’s the truth
Being aware and understanding when it’s time to ask for help is the wisest thing you can do for yourself and those you care for on an ongoing basis.
You not only release some of the load and reduce your stress level but you give others the opportunity to use their gifts and sharpen their skills. In fact, I have a housekeeper who comes in each week to clean our home.
She enjoys what she does and gets joy from helping busy leaders like me be more effective in life. At first, I was embarrassed to tell other women that I had someone coming into my home doing the dishes, scrubbing the tubs, and even helping with laundry on occasions.
But, when I realized that I had created a job for a woman who needs money to support her daughter in college, the embarrassment went away quickly.
Did you know the infamous Proverbs 31 woman had help?
She gets up before dawn to prepare breakfast for her household and plan the day’s work for her servant girls (Proverbs 31:15)
She had a team or a group of women who helped her be more successful, effective, and influential. And above all, her husband and children still admired her.
Asking for HELP is not a bad thing for any leader! You should try it.
In what are of your life do you need to ask for help? Please share below.
Eryka T. Johnson