By Eryka T. Johnson
Today, we are busier than we have been before in the history of mankind. Often times, both mom and dad are working 8+ hours a day to take care of the needs of the family. The children are attending school and spending hours doing homework and participating in sports. Not to mention, all the tasks that come along with hosting parties and meals during the busy holiday season. With so much going on, it often becomes a struggle to keep family first when your schedule is already busy.
Busyness is a sickness that many have bought into believing that if you are busy than you are being effective. Rather, busyness is just another distraction that keeps you from really achieving all that is necessary. Necessary is the key word here. If it is not a necessity, it is designed to make you feel as though you are working hard and getting fulfillment. Yet, it is a lie. All too often, busyness shows up in the life of a “Super Mom” who does everything yet misses the most important task in her role – keeping family first.
I can certainly relate!
As I work every day to do laundry, dishes, prepare meals, take kids to doctor appointments, light housework, homework, football practice, writing, etc., I have fallen into being busy and at times lacking in the area of putting my family first. Yes, all the tasks mentioned above make for a home and life of order. But, a home where the husband or children feel un-important is the first sign of trouble. This is when the “Super Mom” has to take a step back and re-evaluate things.
So, let me give you a few things you could consider to keep your family first when your schedule is already busy…
- Leave the dishes in the sink for a night. They will be there when you wake in the morning. If this is a stretch for you, place in the dishwasher and leave it for the next morning. Take the extra time to get close to your husband. He needs the intimacy and one-on-one time with you.
- Plan your day. Be strategic with your time by taking care of all your errands and housework in the morning. Shoot for having dinner nearly prepared when the kids return home from school. Spend your evening talking and laughing with your husband and kids.
- Choose one night out of the week where you don’t schedule anything. Label it as family night. We typically stay home eating pizza and watching movies on Friday nights. Try letting the kids pick a movie.
- Gather at the table. Gather at the table for dinner, turn off the TV, and enjoy each other’s company.
- Respect family time. Turn off your cell phone during family time. If it cannot be turned off, at least place on vibrate and place it into a nearby drawer so you can hear it.
Hopefully, these few tips help you keep family first when your schedule as a Super Mom is already busy.
What tips can you offer? Please comment.
Eryka T. Johnson