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From Time to Time We All Struggle to Uplift, Parenting Children with ADHD

By Eryka T. Johnson

 

From time to time we all struggle to uplift.

Although I’m a natural motivator and sideline cheerleader, I do struggle sometimes to be an encouragement to someone I love deeply, my son.

My son is unique in his own way.  He is super-energetic, does things without any reason, got kicked out of daycare at 2 years old, spends a lot of time in the school office for bad behavior, gets angry real quick, and knows it all to the point of being disrespectful.  On the other hand, he is loving, cares about the needs of others, quick to help out, enjoys telling jokes and making others laugh, and secretly brilliant when it comes to cars and their specs.

This is where my dilemma comes in.

It hurts me to say this but I must be honest with you. Because I have excelled at so many things and do not have the same demeanor as my son, I harbored resentment.  Yes, my pride was getting in the way of me truly embracing him.  Pretty horrible, right? 

I wanted him to conform so bad that I would be super stern with him and basically threaten him to get in line. 

Then, I got hit with a dose of reality.  In fact, I got reprimanded by the God of Heaven himself.  “How dare you call something I created not normal.” Ouch!

It was true. I had bought into the world’s view of individuals who do not comply or conform to its standards. In fact, I was struggling with how to parent a child with ADHD.

So what did I do to encourage him?

  1. I told my son how sorry I was for being so harsh with him and not fully advocating on his behalf.
  2. I explained to him that he was normal.  Although, those in the medical field call him ADHD, there is absolutely nothing wrong with him.  He was created by God to be who he is and that’s all we can ask.  Yes, he has to work extra hard in school to stay on track but his mind is brilliant and he has great potential to change the world.
  3. I committed to helping him enhance his passion for learning about cars – antique, new, exotic, and high-end.  I know this is a unique skill and I must do everything to help him lead out with this strength.

Your situation may not be the same as mine.  But, if you are struggling to inspire or encourage someone else, take the time to reflect and understand what is holding you back.  And, step up to share your truth and speak encouragement into their life. 

When I did this with my son, there was a sigh of relief and the biggest smile on his face.  I nearly cried.  Please comment and share what you will do to inspire or encourage others today.

Eryka T. Johnson

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